How to choose your Bridesmaids

Having the right people with you on your wedding day is important. It’s not just about the wedding photos, these are the people who will be there for you as you’re making a big life change!


Do choose someone who you know well…

Your bridal party can consist of whoever you want but it should consist of people who you know well. Additionally, think about the people in your life who have been through it all with you through happy times, through tough times, and especially the people who have seen the progression of your relationship with your future spouse!


Don’t choose right away…

Put some thought into who you’d like to choose as your bridesmaids. Draft up a list of maybes, but then put it away for a few days or a few weeks and see if you still feel the same way. Like we mentioned above, think through who will support you through this major life change, and surround yourself with those people.

Take the time to talk through your bridal party choices with your partner. He or she may be able to suggest someone you may have forgotten, or help you talk through who you’ll choose and why.


Don’t worry about having an even number…


  • So your partner chose 6 groomsmen, but you only have 5 bridesmaids. Is this a problem?

If you’re struggling to come up with an even number on both sides, it’s time to give up the ghost. There’s no need to balance the bridesmaids and groomsmen, especially if it means inviting someone you don’t really want in the bridal party. It’s better to include only the people you want to include, rather than fake it for the sake of a balanced wedding picture.


  • Do think about other ways to include loved ones in your wedding…

Many brides choose to include their siblings in the bridal party, but it’s not required. If you don’t want to include your sibling as a bridesmaid, there are plenty of other ways to get him or her involved.


Before and after the wedding day…

Bridesmaids are so much more than just people who stand with you on your wedding day. They are your support group as you plan your wedding and, after the big day has come and gone, transition to married life.

Once your bridesmaids are selected, have fun getting ready to marry your best friend! But don’t forget to make room in your life for the friends you had before getting married, and have a great time celebrating your engagement with the group of humans close enough to be your bridal party! Although it may be stressful deciding who to ask, your bridesmaids are an important part of your wedding process.


With Love,

Beyond Destiny

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